"Dont give up on him"

In a lot of cases the very best thing that can happen to the drunk is when the people he or she loves the most leave them and give up on them. It allows the drunk to "hit bottom" as it's called in the program. For many drinkers the only way they turn their life around is when they have no where else to go. Esp if their loved ones have been rescuing them.

So don't be afraid to leave. It may be just what your alcoholic needs to wake up and smell the coffee. In AA it's called having a moment of clarity. For me it was when I looked at my father in his casket and knew he died because of his drinking. And that I was drinking exactly the same way.

As Nick Lowe sang "You have to be cruel to be kind".