LO, please keep in mind that the best use for Alanon is to use it for YOUR recovery-- not to get support to help HIS recovery.
Some groups manage this focus better than others-- it's fine to visit as many different groups as you can before settling into one.
The folks who attend week to week also may vary-- suggest you don't glom onto any one person too fast if you want to avoid starting another co-dependent relationship. :~)
Some other things you may find important:
Let the group be the group. Take responsibility for moving at your own speed. Be kind to yourself.