"Anyway, for my money hot-heads who speak their feelings in the moment, are oftentimes less cruel and spiteful at heart, than those who keep silence and store their anger away in private little hordes for nursing in the bitter watches of the night..." from above

You may not understand my point: that what we say in the heat of the moment is who we really are. That is the part we have to work on.

"For you to come in at this belated stage and call us prats is gratuitously malicious and negates the superior position you are attempting to take here" from above

"coming in at this late stage"? I've been reading this thing, you know. (For what it's worth, I'm not absolutely certain of the ramifications of the term "prat". To me, as an American, I take it as denoting a person who is acting in an inappropriate and silly manner.)

"words that expose the speaker as an unpleasant person" from above

I'll stand by that description only as shown by the converstion above. It does NOT mean that that is what we are stuck with forever. In a tangential aside, I remember the last time I flicked a cigarette butt into a parking lot. I suddenly thought: If I don't pick that up, who will? I was 31 years old, long past the time it reasonably should have occurred to me.

Let me spell it out: When a person, especially a man, refers to a woman's body part in order to squelch or destroy his opponent it exposes that person's contempuous mind set.