I highly recommend Susan Weed's book, Menopausal Years the Wise Woman Way. It was from I learned to take dandelion root, hawthorne berry, and motherwort tinctures for menopausal symptoms which I had fairly young having been "spayed" in my mid20s. I have never had any dryness, but she has advice for that, too.

I also highly recommend Dr. Betty Dodson's ADULT CONTENT SITE.9WARNING: sex toys and frank discussions. She has been telling it like it is for years and engaging her readers to also participate in discussions. I see she's got a whole new site which looks easier to navigate. Be sure to scroll down the righthand side for topics.

Good for you for asking and for having the courage to speak with your friend. Don't mind the prudes.

kat