Close and delete this thread. It belongs on a gynecology site. ONce again Lizzie is disgusting.

Lizzie is NOT disusting - just open, healthy and frank. And this is an excellent and valuable thread.

I'm 65 and my wife of 43 years is 64. We have a happy and fulfilling sex life - perhaps not as often as we used to but, what the hell, often enough to leave us both satisfied. And we've never used lubricants, ropes, pulleys, elastic, rubber or any other aids of any sort.

Deep down - in spite of occasional trials, tribulations, arguments, worries, anger, hate, apathy, resentment - there's contentment, humour, laughter, teasing, sheer silliness, and a huge acceptance of the human condition.

Here's a pointer: when we married, my wife knew that the focus of my life was music. She knew that I had to make music, had to go out and perform. And - not once in 43 years - has she ever said a word about my constant practising, the gigging, the running off to sessions, the incessant playing and recording. She, for her part, has gone off with old friends to places all over the world without me, who has no inclination for such wanderlusts. And I've never complained or worried about that.

Acceptance of each other for what we are is the heart of all relationships - the rest follows. So don't worry.