Thanks, kat. You take a deep deep breath, and say "I can DO this,and I WILL, because I HAVE TO!" You take another deep, deep breath, and say, "I will cry later, Right now, I HAVE to to this for the other people who are missing him" ,and meanwhile, said person is telling me to just go ahead and play my favorite "jumpin'" tune. You say "Peter, I know this is your service, and you don't like this stuff, but this is YOUR FAMILY, after all, and this is what they wanted". I did manage to do it without "jumping" into his fave tune or laughing out loud because the sevice was soooooooooo ridulious for him, but it was difficult.

WHY do I have these urges to do these totallly inappropriate things?