Skarpi:
It is imposible to have a life without tradgidy, the trick is how we deal with them. I lost my father a few years ago, and there is nothing good to say to get one through the immidiate moment, other than after a while, you find you have a relation to who he was - a sort of perspective on his life and yours. When awful things all happen together, try and remember that good things will also happen all together.
We are all there with you, in ciberspace at least and in our hearts
Larry