So sorry to repeat myself, but the Sanity person (oh the irony) is still trying to wriggle out of what I said, or twist it perversely.

I focused on sexual acts because that was the turf on which the poster I was challenging had chosen to focus.

If you want to discuss relationships, let's go for it. I could tell you about the stable, loving, happy, lifetime relationship I have been in for fifteen years. But you wouldn't want to hear about that, as it contradicts your preferred images of how gay men are.