bflat...as one who became another statistic in 1992, (after 23 years), I can truly sympathize. It does take time, but you will make it. God! That sounds so trite. The song that immediately came to my mind when I saw this thread was Patrick Sky's SEPARATION BLUES.

I'm not good advice, but I am an impartial listener if you need one. Write on the personal line if you want to.