I guess I'd better bump up the $#@!-reduction candles for you two.   Bread pudding - my son Daniel calls it the Breakfast of Champions. And de-cluttering the table gives you something to do with your hands; good idea. I'd suggest taking Tom a bunch of cd's and something to play them on, as well as a couple of cheap novels, or one of those books he's sorta interested in, but never has the time to read. Maybe a musical instrument or two...