In fact, as an example of how marginalised you are, I remember in June last year I was flying from LA to Miami. There was a gay latino couple in Business with an obviously new-born bay that they were taking home.

They looked and behaved just like any "new" fathers would have done -proud, nervous, happy etc. A woman, the mother of one of the guys, was constantly clucking around them and the baby, so it became quite a spectator sport for the business cabin.

After the meal service, the cabin crew came forward with glasses of champagne for the couple, wished them all goodwill and congratulations, to which a spontaneous ripple of applause broke out through the cabin and anyone that had a glass, raised it.

I'm glad that aren't too many folks like you and Ake out there.