July 19th is the day my parents and an aunt were killed in a car accident, back in 1979. Sudden deaths like that are a shock and usually mean that there are unresolved relationships. I'm the youngest of seven. I have two older brothers and four older sisters who are half sisters. We had the same dad, but he got custody of my sisters and they were raised by my mom and dad. They resent it to this very day, and feel that their mom was a martyr and my mom was a wicked step-mother. It is so true that unresolved problems continue to hang over some people when their parents die. Not only that, there is a ripple effect to other relationships. Three of my sisters are old enough to be my mom. One of them is so bitter that she called me last Christmas and had me in tears telling me how evil she thought my mother was. She's in her 60's, and she still has not resolved these emotions about her childhood. She plays them over and over. Yes, it's good advice to resolve these things as soon as possible. You never know when the end will come.