"I'll let all you "true men" into one of lifes little secrets....women dont want a man to be their "bestest friend" or weep on their shoulder.....most women want a man who makes them feel like A WOMAN"

Personally, IMHO, no man can make me feel like a woman. I am a woman to start off with. Some women buy into the myth they need a man to validate them as a woman and some men take advantage of that need. I am sure there are many women who can make a man feel like a man for the same reasons. Like femininity cannot be given you either. Feminine is something you feel not something someone can give you. That said, I know many women would also disagree with me on that too. The point being that it is a personal thing, just like sexuality.

You may speak for some women, but you cannot speak for them all (no more than I can), because I know lots of women that take men as they are... straight, bi or gay. I have friends who do not need a man in their life to make them feel anything. What the heck is a "true man"?

Some actions will make some people feel more womanly, manly, feminine or masculine... but the emotion that drives those feelings comes from within. The trigger may be without.

I like men as friends and it's nice to have a shoulder to cry on occasionally. With me that could be a female shoulder just as easy as a man's. It could be a gay man's shoulder too! Makes no odds. Friendship is love without wings... but you can still love a friend. I think you will find lots of women have men who are friends and who they confide in. To me a "true man" is someone who is sorted in their head and knows themselves, secure in their own life and sexuality, not challenged by what others are getting up to, and happy to be getting on with their own life instead of other's.

The secret is not so secret

mp