Mbo - It is good that you could hear what LH was saying.

You say that you didn't mean that kind of "anything", well, even if you feel that in a small way, people who can get like that will pick up on it. Thinking that you "need" somebody can be very seductive, so take care.

Too many people are desperate for love because they don't love themselves very well, and cling to the idealized vision they have of the other, often in the process strangling the love that was originally there...

Respect yourself.You still belong to you, no matter who you're with.
Love is made of a series of loving actions, not out of a nebulous warm fuzzy feeling. (That is defined as affection and lust mixed.)

If this is preachy, I apologise. I have been in those sorts of situations many times, enough to be tired of it, and wary. One guy even played part of a song onto my answering machine - after I had refused to go out with him for six months, had told him off right to his face, and had avoided friends who knew him so I wouldn't have to put up with his possessiveness. The lyrics were: "I want to fuck you like an animal."
My friend listened to it and turned white, she was so scared. I wasn't scared so much as angry that he dared try to dominate me like that.
I don't even let people I like try shit like that, you know?
I have even felt obsessive about one guy I knew, but I completely walked away from even trying to be friends with him. I don't take that kind of wierdness, from either side of the dynamic.

I hope that I am whole enough now to take a chance, but I am listening to my instincts!

May your relationships always lead to a greater capacity for joy,
hesperis
(another one for "willnagetlaid" *g*)