I see no harm in trying to change ANY psychological preference a person has, providing the person with that preference has decided that they themselves WISH to change it. That's up to them, isn't it? If they wish to change it, then that's their private business, and they can seek out counseling. If they don't wish to, then leave them alone as long as they're not breaking the law or harming someone.

Someone, for instance, might wish to change their habits in regards to...

shopping too much
being too obsessed with sex or pornography
being addicted to "romantic love"
gambling
drinking
smoking
arguing
gossiping
stealing
being lazy
overeating
undereating
lying
being jealous
whatever

If someone who has been engaging in a secret gay lifestyle while also involved in a heterosexual marriage wishes to get counseling to change his behaviour in that regard...that's fine with me. It IS possible that such behaviours can arise out of traumatic early childhood experiences. That's an individual matter, and it's up to the person involved to decide for themselves whether it is a problem for them or not.

I've seen plenty of people who were addicted to heterosexual romance to the point where it caused havoc in the rest of their lives. They DID need counseling. Why wouldn't someone who was addicted to gay behaviour in some way or another also possibly need counseling? That could be valid, depending on the person...and the person themselves must be the one to decide if it's a problem or not.

This isn't a question of asserting your pro-Gay rigbts stance or confirmng your anti-Evangelical credentials here in order to pat yourself on the back for being so gloriously righteous and progressive and all. Who's impressed by that? I'm not. It's a question of avoiding the utterly tawdry instinct to obsess over other people's private lives like some bored housewife who buys the National Enquirer at the drugstore, takes it home, and salivates over the latest dirt about Brad and Angie or Tiger Woods or this pastor and his wife.

It's sad. Go watch Jerry Springer if this thread is your idea of a worthwhile way of spending your time.

You'll note I don't spend much time on it myself.