"the "n" word never disappeared from the family vocabulary"

It never disappeared from mr "changed heart" Byrd's language:

"In a March 4, 2001 interview with Tony Snow, Byrd said of race relations:
"         They're much, much better than they've ever been in my lifetime... I think we talk about race too much. I think those problems are largely behind us... I just think we talk so much about it that we help to create somewhat of an illusion. I think we try to have good will. My old mom told me, 'Robert, you can't go to heaven if you hate anybody.' We practice that. There are white n*****s. I've seen a lot of white n*****s in my time, if you want to use that word. We just need to work together to make our country a better country, and I'd just as soon quit talking about it so much"

Right there he is being condescending. He is saying they are just as good as us. He has to keep pointing out the difference.

The people who keep saying this and that is racist and how black people are different from white people and therefore need special treatment are the racists and bigots.

That is the racial divide in America. The people who have integrated and the ones who want to keep it alive so they can have something to crow about. Something to be self righteous about.

Let these chest beating 1960's vintage freedom fighers go away and form their own little personal guilt hell and leave post-segregation America out of it.