(((SRS))) If it's any help-- my mom did something similar when I was an age like your sons. For a long time, although I knew right away she had some the right and grownup thing, I ached with regrets and resentment that she had not TOLD me, even tho I really did know it was right that she had not.

Within a few months all the resentments were gone and only the joy of the critters remained. Forty years later all I feel is wanting to be as smart as she was, and as compassionate, toward not only the critters but to my "kids."

So-- GOODONYA.

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I declutted Lent. I declutted my marriage. I declutted my daily co-counseling program. In all 3 cases, note that I declutted them so they'd work better-- I didn't toss 'em out!! :~)

Ditto, Prayer Chain.

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In the past week I declutted brain chemicals. Last night I took a step toward decluttering the DAILY meds-- a great night's sleep, med-free (!!!), now that vision issues do not make my strokebrain crash and burn like a bad HD.

I awoke ready to take BIG next steps (we creep and then we leap), and took them. [dusting off hands of stuff that fell off of stuff others'd put into them by mistake]

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Sent a pile of pix to HD and a small subset (office pix next) to a good friend. Folders well set up to continue.

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I declutted the annual website-maint thing I do, into something I CAN do-- not less but more, but set up so it works for ME.

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I am just about ready to declut/"redecorate" an old family relationship that shattered when strokebrain could not sustain it.

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When I go back dnstrs I'll declut a spiral ham. Ydy I finally finished the kitchen declut Hard was not able to help finish after the Meat Sale.

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I put new (NEW!!!) (!P!r!e!t!t!y!) curtains over the dnstrs kitchen sink. They hold heat, reflect bright (FS) light from overhead while I wash dishes in winter, create privacy when I am home alone, and will-- when Hardi helps me put them back up in a mo'-- leave the sill accessible. And they are all-cotton easy-care NEW, did I mention, STOREBOUGHT instead of made from garbage!

~Susan