That comment from 'sensible member' reminded me of the time...maybe 35 years ago... when I was giving a female acquaintance a ride to a party. We had stopped at her place so she could change clothes, and although I cannot remember how the conversation got onto this subject, she told me (paraphrased) " you know, my fantasy is that some guy will just grab me and throw me down and 'take me'...."

then she stopped...looked at me...and added.. "but not anyone who knows about it ahead of time, of course.."

I just grinned at her.. (I was married at the time, and had no designs on her anyway.... and was sort of complimented that she'd trust me with the information.)