I found the story of this this high level RC dignatary an interesting read (especially the inscription on the memorial stone). Could he have been sending an early message....to future, more understanding RCs?

The below piece is from Wikipedia, but it is supported by other articles....this being the most concise:

John Henry Newman, (21 February 1801 – 11 August 1890) an English Roman Catholic priest, cardinal, influencial in the RC Church, eventually reaching Sainthood.   Formerly a priest in the Church of England.

The sexuality of Newman and his circle has long been a subject for conjecture. Much of the evidence is ambiguous.

His deepest emotional relationships were with younger men who were his disciples. The most significant of these, Ambrose St John who lived with Newman as companion from 1843 for 32 years. Newman wrote after the death of Ambrose St John in 1875: "I have ever thought no bereavement was equal to that of a husband's or a wife's, but I feel it difficult to believe that any can be greater, or any one's sorrow greater, than mine."At his own request, Newman was buried in the same grave as Ambrose St John. He had stated on three occasions his desire to be buried with his friend, including shortly before his death in 1890: "I wish, with all my heart, to be buried in Fr Ambrose St John's grave — and I give this as my last, my imperative will", he wrote, later adding: "This I confirm and insist on."

In accordance with his expressed wishes, Newman was buried in the grave of his lifelong friend, Ambrose St. John. The pall over the coffin bore his cardinal's motto Cor ad cor loquitur ("Heart speaks to heart"Inseparable in death as in life, a joint memorial stone was erected for the two men; the inscription bore words Newman had chosen: Ex umbris et imaginibus in veritatem "Out of shadows and phantasms into the truth"