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Thread #127384   Message #2840544
Posted By: SINSULL
15-Feb-10 - 09:29 PM
Thread Name: BS: 'Some rape victims should take blame'- ??
Subject: RE: BS: Some rape victims should take blame
Jeddy makes an excellent point.
There are a number of women here on Mudcat who have been raped, some quite violently. None that I know of were dressed provocatively; none were impaired by alcohol or in a place where they should not have been.
True to statistics, most were attacked by someone they knew but at least two by total strangers.
The statistics and research show that rape is a crime of power not lust. The rapist is not "attracted" to his victim. He wants to exert power over her.
Read a paper once in a while - middle-aged and elderly women are targeted. Young mothers in the sight of their children are targeted. Most women are raped by aomeone they know - more often than not a spouse or significant other.
Nuns have been raped in their convent.
Most rapes go unreported - as much as 59% in the US although I don't know how they figure that.
As a rape victim, I am appalled at some of the comments made here. I pray that you never have to endure the pain and humiliation as well as the years of nightmares and fear that a violent rape produces. The man who raped me also molested several little boys before he started stalking women. I was not his first. I was the only one who fought to have the case heard. He was found guilty of robbery and imprisoned for three months because he had stolen my purse at gunpoint. Without a third party to confirm the rape, it could not be presented in court - NYC law at the time.
By the way, I was two houses from my home. I was wearing a pea coat and slacks - loose fitting. It was snowing heavily so I was wrapped in a wool scarf, gloves, boots - very suggestive costume - and carrying an assortment of shopping bags. I guess I deserve what I got.