i am completely with crow sister on the talking during sex thing.

especially in a long term relationship. it is healthy to talk about every asspect of your relationship. why should making love be any different? surely talking about things means it could make it better for both of you. there must be loads of old fashioned women out there that just lie back and put up with their husbands.

if it is a new relationship, and someone asked me at every stage if i was happy to carry on, or started then want reassurance, i would see that as being considerate.wanting to please, and do things the way i want them. the same goes for me, asking what and how the other person wants things.

this is where and what makes sexual assult and rape so different. i don't want to keep using the word victim. ok the one who is assulted, does not have their wishes considered.

i too read that last lox post as an imposter. but can you confirm that all guestlizzie cornish posts on this thread have been you lizzie? just to make sure. thanks.

i also agree with DeG. the post where you explained things from your pont of veiw, without judgments and hatred was alot easier to understand. in fact you were complimented on it, by me and others.

have a great day all
jade x x x