""to equate it with absolutely no emotional distinction to what we feel for a last-minute-mind-change prick-tease?""

WRONG!!

She too is entitled to change her mind.

More years ago than I care to remember, I was placed in exactly that position. I am not the world's best when it comes to resisting temptation, but I advised her to go screw herself, and slung her out.

I further informed every male acquaintance what to expect, which seriously curtailed her activities in the close confines of the college we both attended.

I have always been glad that I reacted in that way, and I repeat, she was entitled to change her mind, even though she was a dangerous and unprincipled harpy.

Don T.