All this brouhaha is largely due to a confusion between responsibility (an active causative mind-set) and blame (a passive received flow from others).

Every individual sooner or later must take complete responsibility for who and where they are and every choice that brought them there. That includes a lass who gets raped, or a guy who ends up with a weird and unlovely partner in his bed after a blotto evening out. Or a gal who ends up being ignored by everyone, or a guy who does likewise.

That is not the same as deciding--in terms of socilal justice--who is to blame for a crime such as rape. There's one perpetrator (barring extremes of false enticement). The one with the pointy bit.


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