thanks for answering guys. i have seen the males crowding around females, ducks especially, but i always thought they were fighting each other for the 'right' and to impress her. i would never have thought that animals could rape too.

ok, so if we take the animal rape, and apply it to humans who have had brain damage, it is easy to why that happens. these sort of people should on medication to lessen their labido, or something. wow that sounds bad.
luckily they are few.
i think we have all seen that the men, or should that be gentlemen? on this thread that all (here) prefer their partners, to be exactly that. willing and wanting. so rape has nothing really to do with lust unless there is a medical condition is present, in which case that comes under a whole new heading. where prevention is concerned anyway.not sure, but that would probably be easier to get ones head around and get over it.
to want sex as some sort of power trip is another thing altogether.

i see what amos is saying, for me if i had stayed at home it wouldn't have happened. maybe.
though i do not take any call it blame or responsibilty. i take the point.
i happen to believe in fate, that every descision we make has different endings, but always destined. to me if it hadn't been him that night it would have been something else traumatic to get me where i needed to be.
i was rather lucky in a way, he didn't hit me or threaten to.
just my take on it.

however....
just because i was there and yes, looking back i was wrong to trust him. that doesn't let him off. it was his fault he raped me, not mine! what led me there shouldn't matter.if we go down that route, we could go back days, weeks, even years. what should be concentrated on is what happened once i was there.
which was a lovely evening of giggles and celebrations, it was my 17th birthday. i had done that before and was ok.
sorry for making it personal, but thats the only way i can think of it. i can see this in the bigger picture, but only by applying it personally first..if you get me?

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sorry if this makes no sense. i have tried to sleep, but everytime i try my nose starts again. so i am somewhat frustrated!

i hope you all slept well.
have a wonderful day everyone
jade x x x x x