thanks maryrrf. no offence to anyone else but you put that in a way that i understand. non judgmental and non blaming, just cautionary.

the problem comes when you judge someone wrongly. to then take any blame or responsibilty afterwards makes one question every decision you then have to make. as a friend said on another forum, you might expect them to try it on, but you don't expect anyone to not take no for an answer if you did think about it, you would never make new friends.

take care all
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