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LF, as you have probably gathered from knowing me for a number of years, sometimes what I pass along is not meant as "I say do this now," but is conveyed as info only--for possible use later and always guided by your own best thinking.

In that vein, a comment in a recent post of yours has had me thinking (reflecting, praying, cogitating). And it was a comment about going forward with a child. My vote is to go for it. One huge reason is that the chemo thing-- this whole struggle-- is in so many ways the perfect preparation for raising a small one. It's the stuff no book larnin' or professional experience (which I know you have in abundance) can teach you.

Most of us parental beings learn that stuff with our first child, and then relax for the second, etc. You will have a leg up on that, because that first year's learning for most new parents is about enjoying time, strategizing HOW to meet all the REAL needs, and not sweating the small stuff.

The cancer role models you listed so eloquently (were your teeth gritted?), and the learnings you listed, add up not only to a CA survivor-- but to a fine parent so many first-time parents must yet learn to be.


So please, on behalf of a world full of f*cked-up kids raised by well-meaning amateurs, share all that and pass it along to some kids, in some way-- if possible, in the home and life you have been building for them.


Oh, and Pete? On his own? What makes you think he'd be left on his own? :~)

~Susan

CC You Know Who (YKW)