So sorry kat. Our children are always our babies and our first reaction is to jump in and make it all better.
We can't.
Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Your health has been a real issue lately and you finally seem to be on the way to recovery.
Hard as it is to say "No", it is often best for all concerned. These are adults with the responsibility of a child. Let them be adults and handle their own problems.
Listen, love and take care of yourself.
Mary