I think folks mean well when they offer and they do it because they feel it is the right thing to do. Then they think twice and may be too embarrassed to be honest and call to say I'm sorry I just can't do this, it's too scary for me, or whatever. They may beat themselves up thinking how in the world can they been scared when compared to what you are going through. It doesn't excuse them, but it is human nature. It's too bad they have done so, though.

Good for you for planning ahead and getting so much done! You continue to be an incredible inspiration!

luvyakat