Kim, that may not necessarily be the sequence in other versions of the song. In the one I know best, he's just in church to ogle the ladies but Lord Barnard's wife makes the first move. Not to say that Little Musgrave put up any hint of resistance - he went into the situation with both eyes open.

The only thing bad about this song is that there were two people left standing at the end. Lord Barnard should have hung the page for betraying his mistress and then fallen on his sword in grief over killing his wife. Now that would have been a worthy ballad. ;-)