I hope someday my grandson will forgive me for being a pedant. I's all Mr. Grassfield's fault..when we asked permission, we didn't get an answer until we'd used *may I* instead of "can." Caught myself explaining it to him this afternoon.:-)

Yeah, kat; mea culpa for me, too. I occasionally catch myself doing the same thing when someone replies "Good" to the question "How are you?"

If she's older than my daughters I'm just as likely to say "That can be very limiting." And then offer the wish and hope that she's well, as well.

Cheers, Rowan