"I can't believe some of the dogma, arrogance and downright rudeness of some people"

I couldn't agree more. Narrow minds and long faces....

"It really isn't anything to do with good and bad players - it is the limitations of the instrument itself"

I don't claim to know much about Irish music but, to keep it polite, I disagree profoundly with that statement

"Frame drums are used for dance all over the world, but nearly always played with the fingers for anything complicated"

Yes, and can be very effective with linear music too: Ahmad Al Khatib and David Kuckhermann