I 'kinda' get it. Some folks seems to live their personal lives 'online', whether Mudcat, Facebook or Twitter...whatever.. and it's not always easy to tell how much attention from others is really needed, or whether becoming an 'icon' gets them extra coddling...even when there's "good reason" (as noted in the OP) for the original concern.

And....face it..some folks are more empathetic than others, and really LIKE following travails and offering support and doing various vicarious interacting...and here, even folks we have never met seem like old friends after 5-8-10-14 years.

This is a really hard thing to discuss, as so much of it is subjective impressions of what is 'excessive'.

I'd guess that WYSI wishes there were a better way to say it, or wishes she hadn't bothered, 'cause there's no way to explain easily without naming names, and then you get ruffled feathers and upsets.

   ...*slinking back into a corner, hoping I didn't make the confusion worse*