I would go as far as to say that when we label ourselves we may be most comfortable with it. When someone else labels us, and it does not fit how we see ourselves, then the trouble starts. When someone else takes our labels and abuses us with them, the true sorrow is not far behind.

Also, human labels can be very fluid, changeable things, that are strictly time limited in some instances. When those changes are not seen by either the person 'wearing the label', or whoever is reading it, further complications arise.

How we label ourselves may well drive how others label us to. Much depends on their own relationship with us or the group we belonf to.

mp