Don :-)

I know several lesbians who prefer to call themselves 'gay' rather than lesbian. Some feminist lesbians will not be called gay because it tends toward being a 'male term'. I think you hit the nail firmly on the head. Let the person decide what they like to be called if their sexuality has to be mentioned. Afford thye person the choice. I am sure they appreciate the thought...

Just like we all like being referred to by the name we like.

Great point Don!

mp