Ebbie. Don. Think how much better you could relate to GfS in these discussions if you didn't work from the initial premise that you already hate him...or despise him...or something along that line. ;-) It would put an entirely different slant on the conversation.

Hitler could have done that regarding Jews too. He had the option to. Or Chongo could do it regarding gorillas. Or DougR could do it regarding Obama. So many hypothetical paths to better communication not taken!

You know what I think? I think hostility is like a drug. People get addicted to the brief high it provides them, and they keep repeating the experience. That's addiction.