Last night I spent 20 minures writing a post in which I said (approximately):

"Peter T, I think we understand one another."

It carried on to say that I thought Peter T may have a clear sense of himself already and that that is why he wishes that people would not limit themselves with definitions of self.

Unfortunately, it appears that I may have missed the submit button.

Carol, I would say that what one does and what one is are pretty much the same thing. otherwise observation is futile.