I'm not so sure, Kat, that we are all evolving. Evolution is hard work and it is so easy to sit on the couch and let the TV wash over you.

It takes a conscious effort to realize a few important points about oneself. It is so easy to lay blame for one's problems elsewhere. God knows, I've done this often enough, and recently too. Yet, when you probe into the cause of your problems with an open mind, you can usually find that you are not completely guiltless.

For example, I have a bad back, a herniated disk. The reason was my weight and poor physical condition. There were two possible outcomes. I could have decided that it was my fate to suffer the pain, give in to the condition and spend the rest of my days in sloth and unhappiness. Or, I could have started an endless round of physical fitness training, physical therapy, and diet. It would have been harder and the promise of happiness was uncertain. Yet that is the path I chose and it has made all the difference.

It takes great effort to learn and grow. And so many people do not bother.