Classic cases here of the 'the tyranny of the shoulds and oughts'.

My wife is a psychotherapist and she talks of that phenomenon - not a good thing.

Just because it's right for a particular respondent, it doesn't mean it's right for the OP.

Whatever happened to 'live and let live'?

We end up singing about 'freedom of choice, peace and respect et al' . . . then slate someone for exercising it? I don't think so.