Jim, wherever you live now, you do not come across as English.
Do you not feel Irish?
If ever you do find yourself in a bar with real Irishmen, probably best not to argue too strongly for a British referendum to solve the problems of Ireland.
They will agree with me, in answer to your last question, that mainland Brits' opinions do not count.

Your penultimate question was whether we have an opinion.
Not really. When the Troubles were on we just wanted rid of the lot of you. That has faded now. Why should we think about it?

Do you not have any English friends Jim?
I can possibly suggest why that might be.