Jim, you say,
"My position is and always was that all parties concerned with the partitioning of Ireland and are affected by the consequences should have a democratic say in the matter.
You have deliberately misinterpreted that in order to score some kind of points and to make me out a fascist"

But, NI's "say" would be overwhelmed by the numerically greater "say" of any of the other parties.
So, their say would make no difference.
So, their democratically expressed preference would be stamped down.
So, I described your position accurately.
On the old thread you actually stated that they had no right to choose for themselves.