Emma, read 'Not Without My Daughter' by betty Mahmoody. She was married to an Iranian American, a surgeon who'd lived in the USA for decades, but he returned to Iran when one of his family was ill, if I remember correctly, can't find the book at present...

After the visit he decided to return once again, this time taking his daughter with him. He did not return her, nor did he come back himself. The story, now a film with Sally Field in, follows Betty's journey to get her daughter back again. She went to hell and back.

She was forced to send her little girl to the local school, very much against her wishes, and there, before the start of every lesson, the children were taken into a room which had a United States Flag painted on the floor, and they were taught to spit on it. She was totally shocked, but then she was shocked about much of what she saw, heard and experienced, whilst in Iran.

I worked with Muslims from all over the Middle East. Some were absolutely wonderful, kind, thoughtful, polite and regal...from Princes to Paupers, quite literally. Some though, were utter bastards who loathed Westerners and all we stand for.

But then, some Christians loathe Muslims and all they stand for too...so the See-Saw of Hatred is sadly, always balanced just so....