I think it rather pretentious that anyone should think they have a right to invite anyone into mainstraem society (and I am NOT singling your comment out as I know many agree with you). Who is to say who can be inside the mainstream?

For it to be a mainstream it should be fair to all. The very idea that some think it is their place to say who can be 'in the club or out of it' seems discriminatory in itself.

Who gave the mainstream permission to be in the mainstream. Who or what is the mainstream? Who gave them rights to decide?

I would wager many the gay man has died to give the mainstream their safety and their rights. Not of HIV/AIDS, but for fighting other's causes. I never ever heard a gay person in the forces say they were not going to fight for the straight people. They fight for everyone and they die on batlefields too.

Just some ideas and thoughts

mp