There are many theories about the female orgasm.

But you are right Mrzzy - a relationship (of the sexual, you know, grown up man, grown up woman (or gender preference) kind) without sex is a contradiction in terms. Interestingly it only ever seems to be women (oh, and priests, not a lot of difference unless your young boy is at risk) who say otherwise. They don't seem to get it. Why would any man talk to them (save socially in passing, not on a long term basis) unless it was their turn next?