OK I suppose thinking again on the sex without love or love without sex question. I would take sex without love but I'd rather have neither and it also depends on what the love is.

I can well do without the insanity I'd call lust not love so am answering that way to avoid myself (and perhaps her) a hassle. Sex on its own might seem kind of empty to me even if an attraction existed.

It is totally a wrong time in my life with my problems but I guess that if it was another time and I could genuinely be part of a relationshio that matured in the right way I'd be answering not one or other but both.

Outside my own problems, I can not be sure the relationship is something I want though. At times, I feel (and no Joe, I am not suggesting one must be celibate to be in the clergy - I actually disagree with that stance) I wish I was a monk and free from all temptations of the flesh.