". . . for that life to be humanoid, our solar system has to be virtually recreated tit for tat and that is statistically out of the question."

Absolutely untrue. The opposite, in fact.

Check out the Drake Equation. I linked to it above, but here it is again,

There are all kinds of different ways that life can develop (see some of the more bizarre species here on earth). But such things as bilateral symmetry, four limbs, binocular vision, and binaural hearing have immense survival advantages. It is not at all unlikely that a fairly advanced (meaning it has survived awhile and evolved over many generations) would have a basic physiological structure similar to our own.

This is not science fiction, it is not my own whim, and it is not "pie in the sky." It's the opinion of a substantial number of exobiologists.

Don Firth