You learned from other "wise women" on the same journey and now, as we all knew, you are your own wise woman and passing that gift on to others. What SRS and Bobert both say are important, as you know. The other is to protect yourself from the fear, too. It can so easily come to the heart and mind when we empathise so well, esp. with someone who is going through what we've been through ourselves. It is all too easy to imagine ourselves in their shoes. Just remember, fear is not helpful for anyone. You are here, well and capable. Yes, it is very sad and there will be tough times to get through in helping your friend, but you are here, well, and have a strength born of courage through adversity and we all love you.:-)

kat