Yes, it's complicated. I don't deny it. But I smell a censorious rat when I read expressions such as family values and encouraging monogamy. Whatever different values to ours are practised in Africa, they were practised for millennia before AIDS came along. This is not an opportunity to attempt to impose western values on other people. And I don't know who you're thinking of when you refer to "those who simply say that condom use is the answer to hiv/aids." I want condoms to be just as available in Africa, free from moralising, as they are here. They are not the answer to HIV but they are part of the answer, and to a lot more than just HIV.