Whoa, bitter much!

"we're always using a condom."
"you can't come over to my apartment drunk,"
"You can't call me drunk,"
"I'm never doing that or wearing that"

He calls that "bitching and whining", when I'd call them pretty sensible ground rules for a casual sexual relationship.
Not sure about the rule discussing other partners, but that's for the people involved to decide between themselves and of course it would have to apply both ways.

If his attitude about simple ground rules is that uptight and immature, Like Kat, I'd be surprised he ever gets laid at all.
Based on what he calls "bitching and whining", I guess he thought a casual sexual relationship meant he could stop treating her like a friend (friends of course tend to go out together "once a month" "just to be nice") treat her like shit by refusing to wear a condom, going round her apartment drunk, phoning her up drunk, expecting her to dress up in kinky outfits, and do sex stuff for him that she wasn't into herself.