Little Hawk,
How is it sane to enter conversations (and start whole new ones) just so you can tell the participants that they are being stupid? It certainly seems sanctimonious to me. If you don't like people saying snarky things to you, you should learn to watch your own tongue.

You were chiding Steve for identifying himself as an atheist, in effect saying that he is less than you because you refuse to be bound by labels. If you don't think you were communicating your sense of your own superiority then you don't have a clear understanding of how your words are perceived. If, by some chance, you were just making some general observation, it was inane to the point of uselessness. "People are complex." Duh!

And yes, I think someone who refuses to identify what groups they belong to for the purpose of having a conversation about it is being non-committal to the point of being nothing, but only if, like you, they choose to insert themselves into the conversation anyway. And when you use your high-minded superiority as a put-down you become a sanctimonious twit. All clear now?