Janie, you're grieving already, and it is worse when they pass. But it's like finally vomiting when you have the flu - when it happens, there is some relief. Not right away, but it changes. My mother-in-law died Thursday, so my ex and my children are in the place you anticipate. And I hope I can help them through it, but time is what is the best cure. Take care of yourself.

I'll save the BS for tomorrow. Sleep on it tonight. Take care, everyone. Give someone you love a big hug.